My Story

Let me tell you a story. Many people see me as a responsible individual now, but I wasn’t always like this; I was worse. Worse doesn’t mean I was smoking and robbing people – I was good on the outside but struggled with inner issues.

The Facade

I presented myself as a good boy when people were around, but with my family, I was wicked towards them. I didn’t enjoy sitting with my dad because he would certainly complain about my way of life – not doing chores, poor hygiene care, and several other issues. My mom, on the other hand, hoped I would change, because my laziness looked like a superpower.

A Haven or a Trap?

I attended a Catholic boarding school-FIC Educational Complex, known for teaching students to be well-organized and disciplined. However, for me, it was a haven where "no one would complain or look down on me." I thought. But little did I know, this supposed haven would become my downfall.

Consequences of Isolation

My failures were often associated with my parents' divorce so I decided not to learn. I had two options: use that anger as fuel to learn and become a better student or simply blend in with the student body. Regrettably, I chose the latter. Before boarding school, I attended a basic school called Dan Ibu. Thanks to my dad’s persistence and mom’s evening tutoring, I was always first in class. However, in boarding school, I didn’t even rank among the top twenty sometimes even top thirty.

Turning Point

One of my mates who moved from Dan Ibu with me once asked why I never became first in boarding school. I realized I had isolated myself from every good thing and everyone, and things didn’t go well for me. My mom had to force me to attend conferences, meetings, prayer sessions, and many other gatherings and trainings like the Taskwit Leadership Accelerator just for me to change. Fortunately, I did.

Lessons Learned

Now people see the reflection of the positive influences in my life – those who have spoken to me, mentored me, advised me, corrected me. Now I’m a dedicated learner. From my experience, we can see that I chose isolation. Isolation can be beneficial and destructive, depending on its purpose.

The Danger of Isolation

When God isolates a person, it’s because He wants to personally mentor them. However, self-imposed isolation can lead to negative tendencies, harming relationships and businesses. The moment you start excusing yourself from meaningful interactions especially family social times, you begin building walls.

A Call to Action

Surround yourself with people who push you toward perfection. Balance solitude with social interaction and learning. Set systems to keep yourself in check. Learn and learn; never stop. Practice what you learn, and let’s grow together.

Final Thoughts

In conclusion, isolation can be a double-edged sword. While it may provide temporary refuge, it can also lead to destruction. Let’s strive to find a healthy balance between solitude and community. Don't keep to yourself too much.